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Did I end up traveling the world and living in Indonesia because it was my destiny? Or was it just bad luck – or maybe good luck?
Destiny and luck have a lot in common. The general idea seems to be that both involve something that is beyond a person's control - something that can be good or bad or somewhere in between.
For example, one of my close friends thinks that I've always been lucky. He thinks that all the good things in my life have come to me because I was lucky and that he is not living his dream because he hasn't been lucky.
Sometimes he used the word luck or lucky to describe my life, and other times he said that it was my destiny to live my dream life. I never took it personally, but it sounds to me like he doesn't give me credit for what I've accomplished - that I would have ended up where I am today no matter what.
This friend is not aware of the difficult and depressing years that I had earlier in life. And when I tell him about those times, he doesn't understand that I moved through those difficult times to better ones simply because I took charge of my life and brought myself out of those funky times through my own willpower. In his mind, it was just luck or destiny.
Not Luck or Destiny
I had certain dreams through much of my early life, and I was always looking for a way to fulfill those dreams. I didn’t sit down and plan – I was never a goal setter or planner. But when situations came along that seemed closer to my dream than what I was doing at that time, I grabbed them.
Sometimes doing that involved risk on my part. And sometimes those situations ended up in disaster. But I always learned a lot from those disasters. Looking back, I can see that although I stepped both forward and backward, the overall path was in the direction toward living my dream - simply because I was willing to take risks along the way.
Being willing to take risks in life means that you are not afraid to fail. Unfortunately, we’ve been taught (brainwashed) about being successful at whatever we attempt. That’s too bad because failing now and then is important. It’s those failures that offer so much opportunity for growth. And if you don’t fail once in a while, you won’t know whether you're striving hard enough.
Albert Einstein certainly was not afraid to fail. When he showed up at Princeton, the person who showed him to his office asked what supplies he’d need. Einstein answered, "A desk, some pads and a pencil, and a large wastebasket to hold all of my mistakes."
Let yourself make mistakes. Don’t get stuck in a rut.
Take risks so that you can make your own destiny.
Maybe My Friend Was Right!
But then again, maybe it was my destiny to be a risk taker. Maybe my friend was right after all. Maybe I couldn't have done anything differently. Who knows???
Of course, you are the one who moved along in your life! For some people, I appear to have had an easy time in life, but nope! I created myself from difficult circumstances so I can feel you and say: congratulations on choices well made. 🙂
Thanks, Stella. The important thing that came out of my journey was my realization of how powerful I am. That wasn’t easy earlier on in my journey – took me a long time to recognize it.
I love your website name – theenergizedme – how perfect!
Never stopped to consider whether something was luck or destiny. When a door opened to a new venture, I just walked through, ready to take the lumps or reap the reward. Made for a life of interesting adventures.
That’s the best way. Take on all opportunities and live the adventure!
I have people tell me this too (I left Seattle for a 2-week vacation in Belize and never returned – that was 3.5 years ago)…that I’m blessed or lucky. I feel it’s Choice. We create our Reality – if we don’t like it, we can change it. Kudos to you for taking those leaps towards your dream!!
That sounds like me. I came to Indonesia for a 3-month work assignment – and 36 years later, I’m still here. You’re so right – we create our own reality. Hope you’re in Belize for a long time. Or maybe you’ll find a new destination – it’s all up to the individual.
Luck and destiny are always hard work I find. It takes work even to walk through an open door. Everything looks easy when you’re just observing and not doing. Takes courage and work to take risks. Good on you!
Perfectly said ‘Everything looks easy when you’re just observing and not doing.’ Thanks, Lily. I hope you don’t mind if I make a social media graphic and use your quote. Of course, I’ll credit you for the quote.
I love that I found a like mind here. I really believe everybody in the world gets the same allotment of opportunities and challenges– perhaps on different scales–and that’s destiny. What a person chooses to do about the good or bad “luck” makes the ultimate difference between satisfaction and dissatisfaction, happiness and misery. Some of us choose to be happy and that’s definitely on us! I have a huge wastebasket filled with mistakes, but those unwritten pads are what I look at. Thanks for the lovely post.
Thanks Ranee. Yes, it’s all about how we react to the ‘luck’ that faces us. We have the power.